Series: The Language of Love (Part 4)
We know that love is important. We also know that love is complex. We are social beings, so we need to interact with others. That interaction can (and often does) lead to love.
The issue with which we must deal is how people show their love. Some people tend to equate romance with the right words, but love is expressed in more than verbal language.
Dr. Gary Chapman in The Five Love Languages explains that we must be able to express love in a way that one’s spouse understands. We must understand their (and our) Love Language. Like our five senses, we must understand the five Love Languages, so we can best show our love.
The first Love Language is quality time. Spending time together is wonderful, but spending quality time is essential. Find some things that you can do together. Give the other person your full attention. Have fun together. Talk about important things.
Gifts is another Love Language. Gifts show that you have been thinking about the other person even when you are not together. Gifts can be costly, but they do not have to be. Making a card, a playlist, or other creative things shows that the other person has been on your mind and heart.
When a birthday or anniversary is forgotten (or even a date night), the other person may feel unloved – or at least feel as if they are no longer important to you. Therefore, show them that you love them. Help them with their chores. Create a meal for them and say that you did it because you love them.
Also, do not forget physical contact. A gentle caress, reaching out for the other’s hand, a hug, a kiss on the forehead, or stroking the other’s hair can cause shivers to run up and down their spine.
Look for ways that you can show or express your love. Do not assume that they already know that you love them. Show it. It builds the bonds and stokes the fire.
Check out Chapman’s book to discover much more about this. You can click the picture below to get your own copy…
