Don’t you want to be known as a people person? As someone that others want to be with and around?
A people person can be described in many ways, but there is one thing that is clearly the most important: listening. Listening is a skill that can lead to great things. After all, most people seem to be so enamored with themselves that they aren’t good listeners. And today we face the obstacle of the smartphone – people spend their time with their heads down and their thumbs scrolling.
If you are a good listener, you will stand out. People will notice. People will come to you to be heard. Many will come to you and not even know why they are drawn to you – but you know.
We have to realize that listening is not just about then giving advice – like a therapist. In a typical conversation, it is not always a good thing to give advice. You will become known as someone who is always meddling, or you may give the wrong advice. Just listen.
Hear what the other person is saying. THEN determine what they are trying to say. Ask questions that not only show that you are listening but that you also want to understand more.
Look for ways to build the other person up. You may need to encourage them. You may need to express your concern about their situation. It is not about giving advice; it is about showing that they and what they said matters.
Think about many of your conversations. Person A talks about himself. Person B then talks about herself. Those conversations don’t usually involve a lot of real listening.
Instead – listen and let them know that you care. It is a skill that takes practice. But when you do it, you will be the kind of person others want to be around. You will be a people person.
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